If you are in an unstable, abusive, stunted relationship where you feel you are carrying all the weight emotionally and financially... STOP.
If there is no grounds to trust your current partner, who has continually misused your trust by lies, deciet and betrayal... STOP.
What happens is it takes a toll on your health, and if you are financially bound to each other either by contract or verbal agreement... and they bail... guess whose cleaning up the mess. You.
Your credit takes the hit, collection agencies come after you, court dates get put up and you're sued for penalties you were stupid enough to make based on another person's empty promises of "for better or for worse"
These days, you don't have to get married to go through a divorce. That not only leaves you with nothing, but leaves you to swim with sharks. On top of the emotional anxiety and depression that comes with heartbreak and betrayal, you are owned until your debt is paid, which accrues with each passing day.
The next time you, my dear friend who are reading this feel compassion or empathy for your beloved's past suffering, have compassion for yourself. A partner is different than a patient. You're no one savior or therapist. What happens is they use you as a floating device then discard of you the minute the threat of sinking becomes the only option. As long as you're up and okay, you're needed. The minute you take a hit, they're no where to be found. Love yourself. Greatest lesson I ever learned.